The History of ‘Ladies Day.’ Vance Lowry (Author: Sky Blue Winters).
“Let us have wine and women, mirth and laughter; sermons and soda water the day after.” Lord Byron.
Throughout Colleagues’ 92-year history, the fairer sex has been enthusiastic supporters of Colleagues. However, it was not until 1996 that an official ‘Ladies Day’ was instituted.
In the early days of the club (1930/40s) socialisation among members involved mixing with the opposition players after the match at the Royal Oak Hotel in Double Bay. As Lyne Park was Colleagues home ground, sometimes they put on a post-match keg at the ground. This seemed to be an all-male affair. Perhaps a reflection of society at the time.
The outbreak of World War 2 in 1939 saw the cessation of rugby until 1946.In the post war period leading into 1950s, social outings with loved ones took the form of picnics. A Christmas picnic, at Shark Island off Rose Bay, was a great success, well attended, and enjoyed by all. Attendees agreed the Christmas BBQ should become a permanent fixture.
It was not until 1954 that the Colleagues hosted their 21st Anniversary Dinner Dance at Sherbrook Lounge in Double Bay. This was a formal affair with a printed invitation.
“I only drink champagne on two occasions – when I am in love and when I am not.” Coco Chanel (1883–1971), pioneering French fashion designer.
In 1957 the first Colleagues clubhouse was completed. It was to become the social and central hub of all rugby related activity for decades to come.
The great on field success of the 50’s meant that more spectators attended home games. They, in turn, could be accompanied by members of the fairer sex, who also invited their friends. Before you knew it, there was the embryo of ‘Ladies Day.’
The 1960’s heralded many dynamic forces of societal change. The social life of the club blossomed, and very attractive ladies extended their interest and enthusiasm in attending both matches and social functions. These became an integral part of the Colleagues lifestyle. The ‘swinging 60’s’ were greeted with thunderous applause and affirmation by the Colleagues. Some Colleagues even met their future partners at these festivities. I know because I was there in this era, observing this phenomenon! (circa 1970, Vance Lowry author)
“He who loves not wine, women and song remains a fool his whole life long.” Martin Luther, German Priest 1483- 1546.
Saturday night dances throughout the season also acted as a catalyst to the social environment.
“A woman drove me to drink and I didn’t even have the decency to thank her.” W.C.Fields, American actor, comedian and writer.
Post-match attendance in old clubhouse was packed out, particularly when it came to speeches and chugger-lugs. In this period, Colleagues was blessed with many raconteurs with oratorical skills who delivered their lines humorously. Traditionally, it was the President or Captain of the opposition club who spoke first, as they were guests. The host was given the right of reply. It was great witty entertainment; hence the crowd. The rough and ready bar somehow added to the flavor of the celebrations.
Later our piano player, Bruce Diggle (RIP), led the singalong as he thumped out various celebratory (often ribald) tunes about life and failed romances. Little gems of philosophy!
Some luminaries in the club credit Colleagues with initiating the cordial ritual of welcoming the visiting club. This practice was thought to have emanated in British Rugby Clubs, (over the years we have had a few Poms in the club) and, it became an entrenched part of Colleagues welcoming and respecting their opponents. The audience loved it.
Annual reports are punctuated with descriptions of annual balls, club dances, disco nights (especially in the 1980’s) all of which increased significantly. Again, societal change, with the acceptance of women, paved the way.
Quotable Quote: New girlfriend to new Colleague’s boyfriend : “I can tell from the people that you attract that you are, indeed, quite popular with a certain type. I want you to still be able to hang out with your friends. Even the ones I think are a bad influence which is, virtually, this whole club.” (Circa 1968, source: Vance Lowry, old Colleague and author, archival quotes of the decade).
As the club evolved, there was an acknowledgement that social events should become a formal part of the club calendar. 1996 saw the establishment of social committees who incorporated ‘Ladies Days’ as a permanent fixture. This highlighted inclusiveness as a high priority for Colleagues culture. The recent inclusion of a woman’s rugby team has also embraced the notion of the egalitarianism of the club. It will probably not be long before representatives of this team are appointed to traditionally male dominated duties e.g. coaching, office bearing etc. Their input already is of great value in assisting the organisation of ‘Ladies Day.’ Will we ever have a female President or Club Captain? Only time will tell.
Currently, features of the day relate to a plethora of attractions for the ladies, including a one up wrist band which entitles the wearer to champagne and nibbles. Relaxing background techno music blasts away sometimes with a DJ. Indie rock with a solo guitarist has also appeared. Raffles, prizes, and pampering, as well as the rugby, caters for many. To provide for all, I have also witnessed the inclusion of a jumping castle for the kids. It is no surprise that, together with the ‘Long Lunch’, Ladies Day represents a good fundraiser for the club.
“There comes a time in every woman’s life when the only thing that helps is a glass of champagne.” Bette Davis, American actress of film, TV and theatre.